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Tuesday, December 6, 2011

.........and a kick to the head!

Well, it seems it is now time to go ahead and fill you all in.....we are moving yet once again.................................................................................................................yes..........that M word has become the most dreaded word in our household. Monterey was supposed to be a step up from Arizona and it seems as though nothing is working out for us...I won't get into crazy details and bore you to death but,,,,,,,EVERYTHING from the moment we found out we were moving here and the accident we had all the way to right this moment...the job, the schools, my business, grocery shopping, finances.......the list goes on and on and on........it wasn't supposed to be like this, but you can't stay somewhere if you can't pay your bills.When people or jobs aren't able to come through as arranged, how does a family survive?...I am heartbroken, for my family, my kids especially. I have always been the 'stable' one that EVERYBODY looks up to and relies on,and at this very moment, I am grasping to hold onto anything that remotely seems stable...the routine, I guess is the only thing thats stable, wake up, do breakfast, get kids to school, try to work and homeschool whoever is off school that day, pick up other kids, dinner, bed, do it again....at least I am able to give my kids that much..at least they have me here , right?! I spend most my days crying, as this has been mine and the Mr.'s worst nightmare, moving here.....like I said I won't bore you with details but how can EVERYTHING in your life at one moment seem to be the biggest mistake you ever made? And none of it really seems to even be to our own fault...thats a hard one....
Ok Ok what does this mean for Night Owl..well it means that until we find a place to live I don't know how much sewing I will get done or be able to even do....as of this very moment we have to be out by the 17th of December and have nowhere to live...We have a place to go but nowhere to LIVE! How does this happen? How do you go from owning investment property and driving nice vehicles, and owning a business, to your family of SEVEN moving in with your parents???????? Hello, somebody wake me up please..............................I know we will find a place, but the thought of having to move all of us in 2 weeks to my moms,and putting everything we own into storage just sickens me.....It has REALLY been pissing me off lately to see everyone decorating for Christmas and setting up Christmas trees....I feel like a big baby not being able to do the same for my family....was that brutally honest..it's pissing me off? I sound like a whiny baby when I read it or say it...but after all, I'm the "mom who does it all"...I'm the mom that organizes the school parties, that takes the kids to see lights, that decorates and bakes endlessly, that still runs my business, etc etc etc................................right now I'm packing to move somewhere that I DONT want to be and I can barely afford to buy food to feed us much less a Christmas tree or Christmas presents.....Yah I'm a little pissed!!! I made the decision to go back to Riverside instead of Arizona though as that is where our family is.....thats where my boys' dad is, that's where our support is..my friends, the kids old school they love so much.....Disneyland...........hahaha...the silver lining is in there somewhere......anyways...just pray for us...we dont know where were going we dont know what tomorrow holds..all we know is that we have each other...I know my kids will be fine..I know we will do our best to have somewhat an ok Christmas for them....we will make it work..we always do....times are hard, money is extremely short, emotions are on edge, I have been through worse...believe it or not..LOL..I really have..all I know is that I do bounce back. My kids do end up ok....in the long run, not sure but for now, they are ok......
We made one trip down to southern california this weekend with one moving truck already with half our stuff. I want the kids to finish out school here and then we will move the next day with the remainder. The Mr. will do his best to find a job there, and we will continue our search for a house so we can move into our own space and not my parents by the time we have to go. (Rubbing my face out of anxiety while I type)........big breath...........ok, anyhow, so at this point youre asking...Trisha what can I do????? Pray! Cross fingers and toes! Whatever it is you do..thats what we need....I want to be settled by January 9 when the kids are set to go back to school so that I know where they will be going the remainder of the school year...I want to be able to not have to pay more than one entire month on a storage bill...not too much to ask, right?! THEN.......when that's all said and done, please please please support me..as of Dec. 17 Night Owl is all we'll have to make ends meet....I dont know where I'll be able to set up , but when I find a place the best thing YOU can do is support me and spread the word....for those have ordered I usually throw in two business cards..or if you have ordered from me and have a small collection of cards, share them with your friends, with other people while youre out and someone comments on your daughters clothes....etc etc..thats what I need right now.is to know that you support me and will stick by me and refer me..if you know of a local boutique in your area that sells handmade please put me in contact with them..take your daughters clothes in to them and share with them, tell them that you would love to see me in their shop....anyway, any how that you know of to keep this business alive...is what I ask............
I am again humbled by the outpouring and outreach of my friends, family and this small community even up here where I live now to help us in any way they can....people are so wonderful when it comes down to it...Anyhow, sorry for all this rambling...I didn't cry once while writing it...maybe I'm just accepting and ready to move on to the next phase..I will be sewing up a storm until I have to pack the machines away.....I look forward to moving on and starting over and looking back one day at this time in my life and laughing............I will laugh, right?! Thank you again for all your love......

15 comments:

sdheird said...

I will support you and refer you like crazy!! Just remember you are not dead, so that means you are being strengthened with every step you take. I'm praying for all of you, and know that every time my girls put on their Night Owl you will be thought of and have good thoughts sent your way!

Jennifer said...

Oh Trisha, I'm SO sorry for all that you are going through. I know you are a tough cookie and make good things happen for you and your family! I will gladly support you and your business in every way I can. You are a wonderful person and so talented. Your kids and your husband are lucky to have you! I know this was a terribly hard post to write and I applaud you for expressing your fear, anger and hope in such a transparent way! HUGS!!!

Lollipops and Munchkins said...

My eyes are running with tears as I read this. I am so sorry that you are having such a troubled time! Big BIG cyber HUGS to you.

Jennifer said...

Trisha, I'm so sorry to hear that things didn't work out for you in Monterrey. I will be praying for your family!

Gina said...

Oh Girl I am sooo sorry! I will refer you like crazy! There are a couple cute boutiques here in Yuciapa. I will get their info and give it to you. Call me if you need anything. I'm not that far from you. I will pray pray pray for you all.

bella grace photography said...

Oh girlie. It's going to be ok. We All have been on out knees wondering what tomorrow will bring us. We are all pulling for your sweet family. If there is anything ibcan do other than spread the Night Owl word , I am here. Hugs to you girlie

Anonymous said...

Trisha... your story brings me to tears. the sad part it that it's not just a story. It is your life. I am so sorry that all this has happened. My prayers and thoughts are with you. God Bless you Hunnie! Stay strong!
Christina Peterson

Anonymous said...

Philippians 4:6-7
Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your request be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and mind through Christ Jesus.

Anonymous said...

Dear beautiful sister,

I am praying for you and your family.

Anonymous said...

James 1:1-4
My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.

Anonymous said...

Matthew 7:7
Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened.

Anonymous said...

God has promised never to allow more on you than he puts within you to handle it….

Anonymous said...

Great souls are grown through struggles and storms and seasons of sufferings. Be patient with the process. Endure.

Anonymous said...

God develops real peace within us, not by making things go the way we planned, but by allowing time of chaos and confusion. Anyone can be peaceful watching a beautiful sunset or relaxing on vacation. We learn real peace by choosing to trust God in circumstances in which we are tempted to worry or be afraid. Patience is developed in circumstances in which we are forced to wait and are tempted to be angry or have a short fuse. Every time you defeat a temptation, you become more like Christ. :)

Trisha Ashley said...

Thank you all for your beautiful words and reminders with scripture! I keep saying..it's just a hiccup, it's just a hiccup....I know in the long run it will be ok....